Idiom: wear the pants

Meaning

Idiom: wear the pants (trousers)

to be the person who makes all of the decisions or is the dominant partner in a relationship

*Note: In British English the expression is wear the trousers.

— My grandma was a tiny little lady but she definitely wore the pants in her marriage.

— We finally broke up because both of us kept fighting over who would wear the pants in our relationship.

— Everyone thinks the director's so tough but his secretary wears the pants in their work relationship.

— I'm looking for a traditional relationship—where a man wears the pants at home.

— It's hard to tell who wears the pants in that relationship.

— I honestly hate conflict and arguing so I let my wife wear the pants, unless it's something I really object to.

— Men traditionally wore the pants in marriages partly because women could not work outside the home, which severely limited their influence.

— Our three-month old twins definitely wear the pants in our home!